This is a dating picture!
What does that mean?
When the guy asked for my phone number in the end of our date, I took his phone and not only put my phone number there but I also took my selfie full of confidence and save it on his contacts so he would remember me, my face and my attitude every time he saw my contact.
Be self confident in everything you do, give yourself opportunity to risk and to be open for the opportunities. Be authentic in he most things you do.
You will surprise yourself with the things that will happen in your life after that!
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Romance Myth #3,127: “and they lived happily ever after.” Falling in love is wildly exhilarating.
Falling in love is deeply disruptive.
Both of those things are true at the very same time.
Our culture is obsessed with romance, but silent about the deep truth that vibrant intimate connection requires a lifelong commitment to self-work.
Even if he’s the man of your dreams.
Even if she’s the most beautiful creature you’ve ever laid eyes on. Strong chemistry, great sex, inside jokes, adventurous dates are not enough. There’s no bypassing the work of loving and being loved. The more you let this person matter to you, the more you will be challenged to reckon with your tender spots— your core wounds, your fears, your longings.
Don’t look for a bypass.
Don’t judge yourself.
Don’t judge your partner.
Don’t run away.
Turn toward the internal stir. Begin to trust yourself to handle the stir. Let the foundation of your partnership be a deep mutual commitment to responding with tenderness to your respective stirs. Hold space for each other so that the relationship is a source of healing not re-wounding.
Once we commit to a lifetime of honoring inner work, our romantic relationships become the gift that keeps on giving. When both of you are all in on self-work, all in on saying, with total curiosity and compassion-- "lemme look at what this moment is stirring within me"-- there's NOTHING that can't be healed, celebrated, accomplished. Love is nothing short of the most powerful energy the world knows. When we give love what it needs, it gives and gives and gives back to us. #lovingbravely
Whether the anxiety stems from work, parenting, finances, physical issues, or even world conditions, You are there, Lord, to shoulder the weight. Teach me to recognize the stressful trials as tools for you to shape me and rearrange me. Through those difficult times, You will teach me patience, enlarge my faith, and help me see things I couldn't see earlier—if I will only let You. When I'm clueless as to what to do, Lord, I want to turn to you first, not last.
Forgive me for trying to handle things on my own, Lord. The need to be in control sometimes gets a stronghold on my life. That only makes things worse. I want to trust You more and see things from Your perspective, not my own. No one makes me feel uptight, angry, or stressed, and no one forces me to react negatively. I choose to respond according to my beliefs. Do I believe You are in control? Do I believe You created all things and hold all things in Your Hand? Do I believe You are truly good? When an anxious thought creeps in, help me to stop and relax, to take that thought captive, and to turn apprehension into a calm prayer for deliverance. Revamp my belief system, Lord. Show me a new way to handle life according to Your Way.
The 3 F’s: What He Needs
I’m here to help you nurture your man—physically, emotionally and mentally with what I call ‘The 3 F’s.’ These secrets will help him flourish and thrive. He will value your relationship and show up as the partner you deserve. Sounds pretty good, right?
So, what are the 3 F’s?
Men need to be fed, fueled and...made love to. (You know what I mean. Wink, wink.)
Ladies, doing these things for your man is not about you being passive or subservient. This is all about showing up as a partner, a lover, a ride or die. A wise woman knows that if her man is thriving, she will thrive too.
The first F is FEED.
“‘The quickest way to a man’s heart is his stomach.’ It’s true! Feeding a man makes him feel like he is cared for.
Humans equate food with love because the very first person they loved—and that loved them— gave them their very first meal. It’s a profoundly subconscious response.
Ladies, you don’t have to be a chef! If you love to cook, cook. If not, UberEats!!
There’s something attractive about a woman who can joyfully share food with a man. Think about how playful it is to share nachos or french fries at a game or concert!
The second F is F$*K.
Find out what he likes and how often he likes it. Think of it as taking his sexual temperature. Know his sex taste.
Be prepared for what you find out! If he has a high sex drive, you should expect to be at it...a lot!
For more on this read my article on YogiApproved: ‘A Girl’s Guide to Great Sex: 8 Empowering Tips to have Amazing Sex Every Time.’ (Link in bio)
The third F is FUEL.
Fueling a man is all about showing him appreciation, respect, and admiration. To fuel your man means you champion his career, his projects & his passions. Be his number one fan.
Really, any woman can feed and f&*k a guy. It takes a real-ass woman who is confident, assertive, and secure with herself to fuel a man.
You are supporting him as well as empowering him to be the best version of himself.
Every day make it a goal to do something to feed, f&*k, or fuel your man. You will find that he is not only happier and more fulfilled—you will be too.
Yup "Don't disturb her soul if you mean her no good."
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There’s one little piece of advice that has saved me from a lot of heartache over the last several years in my relationships.
Don’t ask people for advice if you don’t actually want it.
There. Really simple, right?
If you like the dress? Wear the dress.
If you like the haircut? Own it.
Don’t set a trap for your significant other to freely voice their opinion only if it confirms the way you feel. Nobody wins in that situation.
Communication minesweeper leaves everyone with shrapnel. And unless you’re Tony Stark…you won’t survive that for long.
It’s wonderful to (want) to be unconditional.
There is nothing more precious than to want to offer our partner the best version of our love no matter what they do.
But we have to be deeply careful here.
We have to be careful that we don’t try to spiritually bypass our partner or (ourselves) in the process.
We are still human.
We can have spiritual experiences.
We can taste moments of unconditional love.
We can grow our tolerance to get to compassion more quickly and approach our upsets with more kindness.
But what we absolutely can (NOT) do is override our feelings and our hurts under the guise of unconditional love.
No functional relationship can exist without boundaries, without healthy and consciously made agreements between two people.
Be very wary of anyone that tries to bypass your feelings and your hurts.
Set a boundary with them and explain how that action hurts you.
Then step back and watch their response.
If they are not getting it, they simply may not understand.
But hear me .. it is NOT your job to to help them understand if they continue to dismiss you.
If they are stuck and want support and you can see that there is a (genuine opening) to understand your boundaries .. then you can choose to proceed more deeply.
But if you continue to violate your (own) boundaries because they are (not willing) to understand, then you will become an enabler.
You will end up tolerating behaviors that will ultimately destroy the relationship in the long run.
You will end up minimizing the importance of (YOU) feeling heard and validated.
And no healthy relationship can ever thrive in that space.
❝ at the end of the day, in the four corners of our room, you and i, us, together, listening to music close to our hearts that only us know, softly whispering i love yous while looking at each other, sharing shy smiles, we can do everything we want together, we can be jeon jungkook and park jimin and no one will judge us... ❞ .
. . Are we finally gonna see what happened that day!! 💞
How you feel in your own skin powerfully impacts the space between you and your intimate partner. When you feel confident, upbeat, and energized, it’s easy to feel open to connection. You can tap into playful, curious, and optimistic energy and the relationship gets infused with all kinds of good stuff.
But what about when you’re in the throes of some sort of deeply personal challenge:
* I feel insecure about my career
* I feel critical of my body
* I feel guilty about my parenting * I feel scared about my health
How beautiful that an intimate relationship can provide comfort. Sitting in the muck with someone who loves you can be deeply comforting. When two people carry pain, the load can feel so much lighter.
But I want to look at something tough else here. It can be really hard to be in a personal crisis AND in an intimate relationship. You know you don’t feel like your normal self... and so does your partner. This awareness can add a layer of shame on top of the knot of self-criticism and self-doubt. This awareness can create a layer of fear that your partner will grow impatient with your funk. But you don’t have a magic wand and you can’t just will your suffering away.
So what can you do?
1. Self-compassion. Be gentle af with yourself. Nobody ever shamed themselves out of a funk!
2. Pull in resources other than your intimate partner. Friends, therapy, movement, a great book.
3. Unpack this question with your partner: “What can we do to nurture connection while I’m having a bit of a hard time?” What I love about this question is that you’re naming the issue (“I’m having a hard time”) versus hiding the ball and painting on a smile. You’re also inviting in the possibility that your struggle doesn’t have to take center stage. You can be in pain and worthy of pleasure.
We don’t have to be perfect to be loved. But we do need to be real about the fact that our individual challenges affect our relationships. #lovingbravely