I know this may be a hard pill for some to swallow, but here’s the deal: often because of the pain of your own childhood, you cling to motherhood as a life preserver. The pendulum swings and now you’ve become best friends with your child— a result of the parental wounds you carry that you hope will be fixed + healed by this new relationship.
There’s nothing wrong with being close to your child. I believe as children mature, a natural “friendship” may develop. However it’s important for children to remember they are always the child, and you, always the parent. It’s safe for them. Secure. Consistent. This should never change. This can’t happen when you need your child as a friend.
Children will always step into a best friend role with you if YOU let them. They love to help, and always look for ways to be needed. Make sure it’s not in the ways that could harm them, by carrying + comforting for you.
I was asked yesterday “I’m an adult now and my mom will occasionally talk to me about her marriage difficulties with my dad. Do you think this is okay?”
My answer was: “does it feel okay? Do you feel safe inside?” Most likely, deep down, it’s a “no.” That’s a territory where children don’t belong.
Once a child, ALWAYS the child. I don’t care if a child is fifty, they still deserve to feel safe, seen + heard by their parents and not burdened by the role of friend to a parent.
We made it to Friday! Who is ready for the weekend? Theodore & I certainly are!🧘♀️ 🐚 🌊
That moment she went from my little girl to my best friend. All of a sudden she is staying up late, reading the news with me in the morning, hanging with the adults, chatting with me about absolutely everything, and just gets it! Coolest girl I know, and proud as hell to be her Mom! #freezetime
It's #IceCreamDay and we're celebrating with some of our favorites from Series 3 Creamery! What's your favorite ice cream flavor or frozen treat? 🍨
We also have a fun pop-up happening at @kiddoscreamery in LA starting August 3rd! Stop by their shop for some fun custom flavors based on Smooshy characters and for weekly giveaways!
🌺🌺👭 seguimos juntas desde los 3 #casasbonitas#formentera#holiday#travel#besties#happymoments#love#zipiyzape